HD Talks

Here comes the….stress?

Posted by on July 17, 2012 in Uncategorized | 5 comments

This past December, my fiancé and I got engaged. I've never been one of those girls who dreamed about their wedding from a young age, so once the engagement excitement subsided and I actually began to contemplate a wedding, I was (am) at a bit of a loss at how to proceed.

I've always felt that the little details some brides-to-be agonize over (the flowers in the centerpieces should have six petals, not five! Did my bridesmaid dare to paint her nails red with our coral dresses? The ink on the program doesn't match the ink on the invitations, oh the humanity!) are the details that your guests don't notice, and wind up costing you precious dollars and, even worse, enjoyment on your wedding day. I feel that to sweat the small stuff is to forget the goal of the event in general: to celebrate your love with the people you care about. However, now that I'm faced with the task of putting together a party that my closest family and friends will enjoy, I'm starting to sweat at least a few things; it makes me appreciate the work the hospitality industry faces every day in designing spaces and experiences that speak to people and make them comfortable, happy, and eager to stay just a little bit longer.

A wedding may be a more selfish event than most, because first and foremost, you're planning it with your desires in mind. What do you want your wedding to look/feel like? What kind of event do you want to have? How will you communicate your respective personalities through color, decor, music, food? However, the deeper into planning mode you get, the more you worry about everyone else, because after all, a wedding is a hospitality event. What kind of wedding will your guests enjoy? What special considerations must you make for your guests? For those loved ones who are spending money and time to be with you on your wedding, how do you make it the most painless process possible? Having been on the other end of this exchange a number of times, I know how little details can make a big difference—just not the details we tend to obsess over. Authentic personal touches and thoughtfulness go a long way where stunning centerpieces and flashy favors fall short. Anyway, now that it’s my turn to take the plunge, I've learned that a wedding isn't all about you and your groom-to-be; it's more about your tribe as a whole, all of your friends and family members (and crazy uncles, and that guy no one remembers inviting) and how you all come together to enjoy each other's company and celebrate.

In researching venues, it's become apparent what a booming business the wedding market is for many hospitality spaces, and the lengths that some resorts and hotels will go in order to accommodate and assist with a wedding and/or honeymoon—if you want some gorgeous and luxurious examples of this, check out the spa piece from our July issue.

I have fourteen months to plan, and I'm hoping to do it without the help of a wedding planner. While it's definitely shaping up to be one of the toughest events I've ever organized, at least I know I'm in the best possible industry to find the perfect space and the perfect atmosphere for what I hope to be a stress-free, fun, and memorable day.

Have any words of wisdom for me? Let me know in the comments!


The view from the infinity pool at the Strawberry Hill Hotel & Spa in Jamaica. Not a bad place to spend your honeymoon!


  1. Hindi sinasadyang makita ang iyong mga artikulo, nararamdaman ko na halos kapareho sa estilo ng pagsulat at ang maaari kong makita ang mga nilalaman ng artikulo at ang kanyang mga tulad ng pag-iisip, ito ay talagang nagkakahalaga ng masaya na basahin ang iyong artikulo bilang nakatagpo konsiyerto generallyalso na umaasa na magkakaroon ka ng mas magandang gawa , at mga espesyal na salamat.

  2. Congratulations! My wife Ruth and I were just married this past May 5 in the UK. We are having a second "blessing" ceremony and reception in Colorado in August. We planned both events entirely ourselves – quite an undertaking.

    The best advice I can give you is this: from the outset, make a very clear distinction between the things YOU want and the things you are willing to do JUST FOR OTHER PEOPLE.

    Remember, it's YOUR day. Try not to get sucked into doing things just because "it's the done thing".

    One other thing to watch out for: everything doubles in price when you put the "W" word in front of it. It's disgusting, really… a banquet meal for your family and friends might cost $1500 under normal circumstances; just tell the venue/restaurant it's a wedding and the price doubles. Weddings are a big-time racket. Finding any options where you can do something other than choosing a "wedding package" will save you lots of money (although this is more difficult than it sounds).

    All the best to you and your new spouse!!

  3. You made me laugh out loud. I bet if anyone can do it right, without anyone's help, you're the one.

    I think you're guests with feel very extremely welcome & cared for. I agree, making sure everyone is happy is the total package to make the day special.

    I don't think you need anyone's help…just keep blogging – more people need to know what you find out.


  4. haorzafcjjy, and genuinely engage in we must get a neighborhood 1 -Goyard Online Shop Patience, time, and sales drink up a little more in comparison with everything Goyard Online Shop fpjberkr